So, now is the time for New Year Resolutions. The classic mistake that is made about New Year Resolutions is that we ask too much of ourselves all in one go.
Changing lifelong habits, such as eating and drinking too much over Christmas, takes time and effort. Change is best managed and lasts longer when it is done by taking small but effective steps.
The same can be said about relationship issues. Starting change such as arranging date nights every week, is a great idea but it needs to be sustainable otherwise it compounds a feeling that things are not working. So, if it proves too difficult and expensive to do every week, change it to every 2 or 3 weeks.
Sometimes, we can be too demanding and critical of ourselves. If you lose half a pound a week in weight rather than the 2 pounds you promised yourself – congratulate yourself! You have lost weight.
When we change behaviour slowly and with thought it can often be more sustainable than rushing into things. I’m still thinking about mine for 2017.
Don’t forget, we are here if you need some help.