Almost a quarter (24 percent) of people in the South West of England are dissatisfied with their sex life and over a third (36 percent) have experienced a sexual problem according to new figures from Relate Exeter and District.
The same study found that just under a fifth (18 percent) of people living in the South West said that low libido or differing sex drives is placing a strain on their relationship.
The figures are taken from a report by Relate and Relationships Scotland, Let’s talk about sex. The UK wide study included over 5000 respondents, 495 of whom were from the South West.
With sexual satisfaction strongly linked to overall relationship quality and health and wellbeing, Relate Exeter and District is encouraging people in Devon and Somerset to talk more openly about sex and to seek support early on if they are unhappy with their sex life. Relate Sex Therapist, Veronica Beckett at Relate Exeter and District said:
“It’s a shame that so many people in the South West are dissatisfied with their sex life, particularly as this can have a knock on effect on relationships and overall wellbeing. Part of the problem here is that many couples find talking about sex awkward so instead of bringing up any issues and tackling them, they suffer in silence. We’d all benefit from talking more openly about sex and getting into the habit of checking in regularly with our partners.
“If you’re experiencing a sexual problem of any kind or aren’t feeling happy with your sex life, we’d also encourage you to get in touch with Relate at the earliest possible stage. Sex Therapy can help you to work out what’s causing the problem and improve communication and intimacy so that you can enjoy a healthy sex life again. Your sex life is important to your happiness so it’s worth paying attention to.”
Relate Exeter and District’s tips for talking to your partner about sex
- Don’t feel you should be able to understand all of each other’s sexual needs without communicating them. Everyone is different and we aren’t mind readers.
- Get into the habit of having regular chats about how your sex life is going. Consider scheduling in a time for them.
- Pick the right time and place. It’s best to start conversations about sex when you’re both relaxed and without any distractions. Avoid initiating a conversation about sex after or during an argument.
- Don’t worry if you aren’t used to talking about sex. It’s possible to learn how to. It may feel strange at first but soon it’ll be second nature.
- Be honest. If you’re finding it awkward talking to your partner about sex, tell them just that. It’s likely they are feeling the same way.
- Talk openly but sensitively. Saying “I hate it when you touch me like that” may be hurtful so instead why not say “I’d really like it if you tried touching me like this.”
- If you’re still finding things difficult, do consider Sex Therapy. Sex Therapists are non-judgmental and provide a safe environment to discuss sex in.
Relate Exeter and District provides Sex Therapy services for both individuals and couples. Don’t be afraid to get in touch by contacting Exeter Relate Reception
0300 772 9681