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Young People’s Counselling – Thanks to Tesco Customers

We have been fortunate to receive a funding boost from Tesco customers in Exeter for our specialist counsellors to offer counselling to Young people. This a self referral service.Children and Young People are facing multiple choices every day and are assaulted by messages from social media and the web. Young People’s counsellors report that the most frequent issues they encounter in the counselling room are – family breakup, step parenting and siblings, bullying,social media pressures, exams, school phobia and truancy. This is a golden opportunity to access our service for Young People as we have some funding to help with our costs. The blue community token scheme in Tesco has been a great help for us to offer our service more widely. We are currently one of the charities to chose in- store in Exmouth so – please help us to provide even more counselling for Y.P. by supporting us in Tesco store in Exmouth until the end of August. If you are a Young Person or know of someone who could benefit from counselling, please contact us on 03007729681 or reception.exeter@relate.org.

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“Behavioural Couples” Therapy for Depression

Are you in a committed relationship where one of you is depressed,and  the depression is contributing to relationship difficulties? We have a therapist working with a behavioural programme that you may be interested in. You need to be living together and to want to work these issues out as a team. The programme teaches you and your partner a variety of techniques to combat depression and to communicate effectively. For further information e-mail reception.exeter@relate.org.uk Note: Everone who comes to Relate has an initial interview with a qualified counsellor.  

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Relate Taunton and Exeter need experienced counsellors and chaperones.

Due to our expanding services –  we are looking for experienced relationship counsellors to join our team. Experienced counsellors can begin to work for Relate without additional training if their qualifications meet the Relate Accreditation of Prior Experience and Learning (APEL) requirements. We also need people to help welcome clients and act as chaperones for the Centres.  A friendl manner welcome ! For further information, please contact: manager.exeter@relate.org.uk Don’t delay – do it today

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VOLUNTEERING WEEK

The best way to find yourself is to lose yourself in the service of others. -Gandhi Thank you to all who volunteer for Charities and Communities. A special thank you to our own volunteers and to all at RELATE who give that little bit extra of their time and goodwill, over and above what is expected of them. We need more of you. Please contact us for more information.

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Relate says PREPARE FOR the summer holidays

 The sun has finally come out so we begin to think of the School summer holidays.  Parents worry about how to keep the kids entertained. Long summers can be great, but they can also cause tension around childcare arrangements, money and activities. Relate offers some tips for having a summer holiday the whole family can enjoy. Have a planning session It might be impossible to make sure everyone gets what they want from the summer holiday. Draw up a list of what everyone wants. It’s better to explain to children at this point that not all is possible. Planning is important, as it makes all feel  they’re contributing and being listened to, it’s especially important if you’re separated or living in a step family as it might be different from what everyone is used to. Set expectations This includes helping children to understand that you need to work even though they’re not at school, and you can’t entertain them all the time. Don’t be afraid to talk  about money – if they want to do something you can’t afford, be honest with them and work out a cheaper alternative together. Saving money Summer is a time to have fun without…

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How to survive the jump to three children with your relationship in tact

Following the birth of the Duke and Duchess of Cambridge’s new baby boy, couples across the country are probably wondering whether three really is the magic number when it comes to children. According to research, mothers of three are among the most stressed*, even more so than mums of four and five children. Local relationship support charity Relate in Devon sees many parents of three who put themselves under too much pressure by not asking for support. Relate counsellor Denise Knowles at Relate sees first-hand the relationship issues this can cause. She said: “Every family is different, but many of the couples I see tell me that the jump from two to three was a big shock.  It can completely change the family dynamic and the sheer amount of work involved can leave you with little time to yourself or as a couple. The trick is to ask for support when you need it; put yourself first occasionally and get really organised. If you do these things, having three children really can be three times the amount of fun.” What to expect when you’re expecting your third, according to Relate People’s reactions may give you doubts. Parents of three children…

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Time to ‘spring clean’ your relationship

With spring in the air and the days getting longer, many will be taking the opportunity to tidy cupboards, scrub skirting boards and take old clothes to the charity shop.  The concept of the spring clean is well and truly established in the British psyche but it’s more than just our homes that could probably do with a regular spruce up. According to Relate, 1 in 5 people in the UK are now living in what would be described in the counselling room as a “distressed relationship.”  But things don’t usually go from bliss to distress overnight, according to Relate “There’s a real tendency to think that if you’re with the right person, a brilliant relationship will just happen, but that isn’t the case.  Relationships are like houses – if you upkeep and maintain them, they will probably serve you well for many years. On the other hand, if you neglect them and leave the dust to build up and the cracks to appear, the chances are you’ll have a much bigger problem to deal with later down the line.” Relate has a relationship spring clean action plan which will help you dust off those relationship cobwebs and leave you and…

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WAITROSE OKEHAMPTON – THANK YOU, THANK YOU, THANK YOU

Many thanks to all who contributed to the Community Token scheme in Okehampton for Relate Okehampton. We provide relationship counselling at the Okement Centre both daytime and evenings. We provide relationship counselling for individuals, couples and families.

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VALENTINE’S DAY 2018

  This year, we are encouraging couples to celebrate Valentine’s Day in a thoughtful rather than expensive way. We often overlook the obvious in our relationships. It is often the small gestures that make people feel cared for and understood. Sometimes, making a cup of tea for one another, waiting up for a partner to get in, or offering to have the children alone for a few hours, so your partner can have a break – can mean a lot.  It shows you care and that you have been listening to what they want rather than what you think they want. Here, at RELATE EXETER AND DISTRICT, we know that feeling cared for and listened to are the essentials for a happy relationship. Of course, gifts are always welcome and you can always do both! For further information about the relationship charity Relate go to www.relate-ed.org.uk  or phone 0300 7729681

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JANUARY BLUES – HOW TO BEAT THEM

January can be a tough month on relationships – the festivities are over, the credit card bills are in and many of us start to re-evaluate our lives and make lists of the things we’d like to change. You also can’t turn on the TV or open a magazine without being bombarded with adverts and programmes about self-improvement, encouraging you to revamp everything from your wardrobe to your career. But in all the ‘new year, new you’ frenzy it can be easy to forget to think about all the things we already have in our lives that are positive and make us happy. In the same way if we always look at the problems in our relationships, we can miss the small yet most amazing things about our partners, family and friends. We often take for granted the things that are good and that work and forget to take the time and space to really appreciate what they mean to us. Focus on the good stuff: A great way to refocus on the good things in your life is to try writing a gratitude list. This is a common mindfulness technique but I’ve given it my own Relate-twist by suggesting…

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