GOOD LUCK

Good Luck to everyone awaiting exam results. This can be a fraught time for the whole family. Whatever the results, you will be embarking on a new chapter – sixth form, leaving school,university, college, leaving home – be yourself and look forward.   Good Luck from all of us. We offer Young Persons counselling in our Centres in Devon and Taunton.

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My children argue all the time and I can’t cope

Arguments between children can be upsetting for a parent. You may worry about your children’s relationship – especially if the arguments have been going on regularly for a while. You may feel a responsibility to stop the arguing, or may be upset that the arguments are causing disharmony in your family unit. While some level of arguing between children isn’t uncommon – and indeed, might be reasonably expected – what can make a difference is the regularity and intensity of arguments. If your children are constantly at odds, or arguments are becoming really aggressive or even physical, this can create real problems. Understanding why and how children argue When thinking about how to address the situation, the best place to start is to try and understand where the arguments are coming from. Is it about the same thing each time or something different? If it’s something different, are certain dynamics being played out each time – for example, one child feeling that the other always gets favourable treatment, or feeling like they don’t get enough attention? While arguments in children might often be about seemingly trivial things, there is very often an emotional root – something that is upsetting one or…

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Young People’s Counselling – Thanks to Tesco Customers

We have been fortunate to receive a funding boost from Tesco customers in Exeter for our specialist counsellors to offer counselling to Young people. This a self referral service.Children and Young People are facing multiple choices every day and are assaulted by messages from social media and the web. Young People’s counsellors report that the most frequent issues they encounter in the counselling room are – family breakup, step parenting and siblings, bullying,social media pressures, exams, school phobia and truancy. This is a golden opportunity to access our service for Young People as we have some funding to help with our costs. The blue community token scheme in Tesco has been a great help for us to offer our service more widely. We are currently one of the charities to chose in- store in Exmouth so – please help us to provide even more counselling for Y.P. by supporting us in Tesco store in Exmouth until the end of August. If you are a Young Person or know of someone who could benefit from counselling, please contact us on 03007729681 or reception.exeter@relate.org.

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“Behavioural Couples” Therapy for Depression

Are you in a committed relationship where one of you is depressed,and  the depression is contributing to relationship difficulties? We have a therapist working with a behavioural programme that you may be interested in. You need to be living together and to want to work these issues out as a team. The programme teaches you and your partner a variety of techniques to combat depression and to communicate effectively. For further information e-mail reception.exeter@relate.org.uk Note: Everone who comes to Relate has an initial interview with a qualified counsellor.  

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Relate Taunton and Exeter need experienced counsellors and chaperones.

Due to our expanding services –  we are looking for experienced relationship counsellors to join our team. Experienced counsellors can begin to work for Relate without additional training if their qualifications meet the Relate Accreditation of Prior Experience and Learning (APEL) requirements. We also need people to help welcome clients and act as chaperones for the Centres.  A friendl manner welcome ! For further information, please contact: manager.exeter@relate.org.uk Don’t delay – do it today

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VOLUNTEERING WEEK

The best way to find yourself is to lose yourself in the service of others. -Gandhi Thank you to all who volunteer for Charities and Communities. A special thank you to our own volunteers and to all at RELATE who give that little bit extra of their time and goodwill, over and above what is expected of them. We need more of you. Please contact us for more information.

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VOLUNTEERING WEEK

The best way to find yourself is to lose yourself in the service of others. -Gandhi Thank you to all who volunteer for Charities and Communities. A special thank you to our own volunteers and to all at RELATE who give that little bit extra of their time and goodwill, over and above what is expected of them. We need more of you. Please contact us for more information.

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Relate says PREPARE FOR the summer holidays

 The sun has finally come out so we begin to think of the School summer holidays.  Parents worry about how to keep the kids entertained. Long summers can be great, but they can also cause tension around childcare arrangements, money and activities. Relate offers some tips for having a summer holiday the whole family can enjoy. Have a planning session It might be impossible to make sure everyone gets what they want from the summer holiday. Draw up a list of what everyone wants. It’s better to explain to children at this point that not all is possible. Planning is important, as it makes all feel  they’re contributing and being listened to, it’s especially important if you’re separated or living in a step family as it might be different from what everyone is used to. Set expectations This includes helping children to understand that you need to work even though they’re not at school, and you can’t entertain them all the time. Don’t be afraid to talk  about money – if they want to do something you can’t afford, be honest with them and work out a cheaper alternative together. Saving money Summer is a time to have fun without…

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How to survive the jump to three children with your relationship in tact

Following the birth of the Duke and Duchess of Cambridge’s new baby boy, couples across the country are probably wondering whether three really is the magic number when it comes to children. According to research, mothers of three are among the most stressed*, even more so than mums of four and five children. Local relationship support charity Relate in Devon sees many parents of three who put themselves under too much pressure by not asking for support. Relate counsellor Denise Knowles at Relate sees first-hand the relationship issues this can cause. She said: “Every family is different, but many of the couples I see tell me that the jump from two to three was a big shock.  It can completely change the family dynamic and the sheer amount of work involved can leave you with little time to yourself or as a couple. The trick is to ask for support when you need it; put yourself first occasionally and get really organised. If you do these things, having three children really can be three times the amount of fun.” What to expect when you’re expecting your third, according to Relate People’s reactions may give you doubts. Parents of three children…

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Time to ‘spring clean’ your relationship

With spring in the air and the days getting longer, many will be taking the opportunity to tidy cupboards, scrub skirting boards and take old clothes to the charity shop.  The concept of the spring clean is well and truly established in the British psyche but it’s more than just our homes that could probably do with a regular spruce up. According to Relate, 1 in 5 people in the UK are now living in what would be described in the counselling room as a “distressed relationship.”  But things don’t usually go from bliss to distress overnight, according to Relate “There’s a real tendency to think that if you’re with the right person, a brilliant relationship will just happen, but that isn’t the case.  Relationships are like houses – if you upkeep and maintain them, they will probably serve you well for many years. On the other hand, if you neglect them and leave the dust to build up and the cracks to appear, the chances are you’ll have a much bigger problem to deal with later down the line.” Relate has a relationship spring clean action plan which will help you dust off those relationship cobwebs and leave you and…

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