RELATIONSHIPS AT CHRISTMAS

How to have an argument-free Christmas and avoid becoming a January divorce statistic Relate Devon and Cornwall is preparing for a New Year spike in people seeking relationship support after tensions come to a head over Christmas, pushing some local families to breaking point. On average Relate receives a 13% rise in calls and a 58% rise in website users each January. The charity, which offers relationship counselling for couples and individuals as well as family counselling, young people’s counselling, and sex therapy is bracing themselves for a similar peak next month. While they say it’s never too late to seek support, they are urging people in Devon and Cornwall to think about any relationship issues that already exist now – before the pressures of Christmas unnecessarily tip some couples and families into crisis. This comes as new Relate research has found that over half (55%) of UK adults say Christmas places an added strain on relationships. Previous research by the charity has found money worries are the number one strain on relationships, with over a quarter of people (26%) experiencing this pressure. Relate counsellors say that at Christmas, arguments about money tend to be even more common. Nathalie Caulier,…

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TESCO in Tiverton for Relate

  We need your help, again! to put your blue counters into the bags for help in Tiverton Tesco Superstore and Tesco Express in Moorhayes. We have been given the opportunity by Tesco to be part of their instore campaign from November to the end of December 2018. The money raised goes towards helping us help others with relationship problems. Relationship Counselling helps so many individuals,couples, families and young people. People often come for counselling at Relate after a relationship breakdown, or when they cannot form a relationship. We also see people who are having problems with family members or colleagues at work. For further information do contact us on 0300 7729681 We offer counselling in our Centres throughout Devon – conveniently at Okehampton and Exeter. and start collecting!    

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Okehampton News

  Relate thanks the Trustees of Okehampton United Charities, once again, for their continued support of our services in Okehampton. Thanks to their grant, we have expanded our services, and are now offering three morning hours of counselling in the Ockment Centre and six evening appointments on different days. The counsellors specialise in relationship therapy for couples and single people, Family therapy and new to Okehampton…… Counselling for Children. Our new childrens’ counsellor, Hayley is offering appointments post school and into the evening.   For all queries or to make an appointment please e-mail reception.exeter@relate.org.uk or telephone: 03007729681

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Relate September peak in calls

Relate is anticipating a peak in calls this September from couples whose relationships have reached crisis point over the summer. Last year, there was a 10% increase in the area compared to the average month and they are expecting a similar surge this year. Relate counsellors are urging anyone experiencing relationship issues to seek support before heading to the divorce lawyers, who are also inundated at this time of year.  The most common reason people come to Relate is because of poor communication and this is something counselling can really help with.  According to the latest data, 91% of Relate’s relationship counselling clients said that their communication was “a bit better” or “much better” after attending relationship counselling and 84% felt able to cope with any difficulties they might face in the future. Relate counsellor Dee Holmes, said: “If you’re already having problems in your relationship then the pressure of juggling work, keeping the kids entertained and spending concentrated time with your partner over the summer can tip things over the edge. Tempers can get frayed and by the time schools re-open, some relationships are in a pretty bad state.”  Relate’s research has found there are 1 in 5 people…

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GOOD LUCK

Good Luck to everyone awaiting exam results. This can be a fraught time for the whole family. Whatever the results, you will be embarking on a new chapter – sixth form, leaving school,university, college, leaving home – be yourself and look forward.   Good Luck from all of us. We offer Young Persons counselling in our Centres in Devon and Taunton.

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My children argue all the time and I can’t cope

Arguments between children can be upsetting for a parent. You may worry about your children’s relationship – especially if the arguments have been going on regularly for a while. You may feel a responsibility to stop the arguing, or may be upset that the arguments are causing disharmony in your family unit. While some level of arguing between children isn’t uncommon – and indeed, might be reasonably expected – what can make a difference is the regularity and intensity of arguments. If your children are constantly at odds, or arguments are becoming really aggressive or even physical, this can create real problems. Understanding why and how children argue When thinking about how to address the situation, the best place to start is to try and understand where the arguments are coming from. Is it about the same thing each time or something different? If it’s something different, are certain dynamics being played out each time – for example, one child feeling that the other always gets favourable treatment, or feeling like they don’t get enough attention? While arguments in children might often be about seemingly trivial things, there is very often an emotional root – something that is upsetting one or…

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Young People’s Counselling – Thanks to Tesco Customers

We have been fortunate to receive a funding boost from Tesco customers in Exeter for our specialist counsellors to offer counselling to Young people. This a self referral service.Children and Young People are facing multiple choices every day and are assaulted by messages from social media and the web. Young People’s counsellors report that the most frequent issues they encounter in the counselling room are – family breakup, step parenting and siblings, bullying,social media pressures, exams, school phobia and truancy. This is a golden opportunity to access our service for Young People as we have some funding to help with our costs. The blue community token scheme in Tesco has been a great help for us to offer our service more widely. We are currently one of the charities to chose in- store in Exmouth so – please help us to provide even more counselling for Y.P. by supporting us in Tesco store in Exmouth until the end of August. If you are a Young Person or know of someone who could benefit from counselling, please contact us on 03007729681 or reception.exeter@relate.org.

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“Behavioural Couples” Therapy for Depression

Are you in a committed relationship where one of you is depressed,and  the depression is contributing to relationship difficulties? We have a therapist working with a behavioural programme that you may be interested in. You need to be living together and to want to work these issues out as a team. The programme teaches you and your partner a variety of techniques to combat depression and to communicate effectively. For further information e-mail reception.exeter@relate.org.uk Note: Everone who comes to Relate has an initial interview with a qualified counsellor.  

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Relate Taunton and Exeter need experienced counsellors and chaperones.

Due to our expanding services –  we are looking for experienced relationship counsellors to join our team. Experienced counsellors can begin to work for Relate without additional training if their qualifications meet the Relate Accreditation of Prior Experience and Learning (APEL) requirements. We also need people to help welcome clients and act as chaperones for the Centres.  A friendl manner welcome ! For further information, please contact: manager.exeter@relate.org.uk Don’t delay – do it today

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VOLUNTEERING WEEK

The best way to find yourself is to lose yourself in the service of others. -Gandhi Thank you to all who volunteer for Charities and Communities. A special thank you to our own volunteers and to all at RELATE who give that little bit extra of their time and goodwill, over and above what is expected of them. We need more of you. Please contact us for more information.

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