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My children argue all the time and I can’t cope

Arguments between children can be upsetting for a parent. You may worry about your children’s relationship – especially if the arguments have been going on regularly for a while. You may feel a responsibility to stop the arguing, or may be upset that the arguments are causing disharmony in your family unit. While some level of arguing between children isn’t uncommon – and indeed, might be reasonably expected – what can make a difference is the regularity and intensity of arguments. If your children are constantly at odds, or arguments are becoming really aggressive or even physical, this can create real problems. Understanding why and how children argue When thinking about how to address the situation, the best place to start is to try and understand where the arguments are coming from. Is it about the same thing each time or something different? If it’s something different, are certain dynamics being played out each time – for example, one child feeling that the other always gets favourable treatment, or feeling like they don’t get enough attention? While arguments in children might often be about seemingly trivial things, there is very often an emotional root – something that is upsetting one or…

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Visiting Relate Film

RELATE EXETER AND DISTRICT,NORTH DEVON, TAUNTON and WEST SOMERSET have gone into the movie business – launching a film about the process of relationship counselling. Manager Brett Parker says, ” People look on our website for information about our services and then phone for an appointment. We appreciate that this can be daunting for some potential clients because they have no idea what to expect.” “This film shows a step-by-step guide to using our services. We hope it will reduce the anxiety that some couples and individuals might feel before they come for their first appointment.” Shot in Exeter and using Relate personnel, the film shows a couple arguing and feeling that they are growing apart. The couple, helped by a friend, decide to try Relate services to help them to communicate without anger and blame. Brett goes on to say that it was important to the organization that the film was made entirely from the clients’ perspective. “Helping couples with their communication or mis-communication patterns is often the key to our Relate work. Sometimes only an objective person can point out what is happening.” The film, which runs for just six minutes, goes on to show the practicalities of making…

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