The Summer holidays are over, back to school, back to work, back to everyday life. Christmas hols are still a long way off. Sometimes, we look forward to something so much that we build it up to have unrealistic expectations of how it will be. The reality does not always live up to our dreams. We become disappointed and often take it out on those nearest and dearest. What should have been a restful and relaxing time became tense. Did you have a quarrelsome Summer with your partner or children? Don’t let it fester, do something about the arguments and irritation. Make an appointment with us. Make the next holiday different.
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1.Try to sit down as a family to discuss what you can and cannot do over the Summer. 2. If you and your partner get argumentative, for example getting lost en route to somewhere, remember children benefit from seeing conflict constructively resolved – humour is a great way to dispel car tension. 3. If you have step-children and you are all going away for the first time, it will feel very different for the children. Try and create some new holiday traditions. 4. Talk as a couple before you go away about boundaries for your children – keep a united front if they challenge you. 5. Try to spend some time alone as a couple. Holidays are meant to be fun and relaxing but they can also be times of stress and discord. If your family needs some extra support – either over the summer holidays or after the break – talking to one of our counsellors could really help to improve things. To make an appointment or talk to someone please phone: 03007729681 e-mail: firstname.lastname@example.org
Central to all our relationships is the ability to communicate clearly with one another. Nearly all couples who come for counselling at RELATE have issues with clear communication. Why do we speak to those nearest and dearest to us in a way that we would not do at work, with friends or anyone else? To some extent it’s our release valve when we feel under pressure from others. However, it can become the usual way of speaking and builds resentment in your relationship. Poor communication can lead to bad habits. The same argument crops up time and time again, nothing changes, one is snapping and the other is not hearing any more. Gradually we give up trying to talk to our partner as it seems there is little point in going over the same ground in the same way constantly. Again, resentment builds. A “change the communication pattern” tip: One way that we can change this dance is to book time with one another when there are no other distractions. Phones off, children in bed or out, T.V. off and sit facing one another.Think what you want to say to your partner without anger or snide comments – just state…
Here are 5 top tips for you and your family….. 1. Try to sit down as a family to plan what you can do over the Summer.Get the children involved with thinking up low cost activities. 2. If you and your partner get into an argument,for example, in the car you’re going the wrong way, remember that children benefit from seeing conflict being resolved in a positive way. Sulking and silence are not helpul. 3. If you’re going away for the first time as a step family, it will probably feel very different for the children. Try to see it as a chance to create new family holiday traditions. 4. Talk as a couple before you go away about boundaries for your children – and keep a united front if they challenge you. 5.Try to find some time alone as a couple – not easy on a family holiday but even small snatches of time are helpful. Enjoy it – you’re on holiday