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New Year Resolutions

It’s this time again when we think about the year ahead. We have packed away the decorations, found we’ve put on weight, and summer is a long way ahead. So, now is the time for New Year Resolutions. The classic mistake that is made about New Year Resolutions is that we ask too much of ourselves all in one go. Changing lifelong habits, such as eating and drinking too much over Christmas, takes time and effort. Change is best managed and lasts longer when it is done by taking small but effective steps. The same can be said about relationship issues. Starting change such as arranging date nights every week, is a great idea but it needs to be sustainable otherwise it compounds a feeling that things are not working. So, if it proves too difficult and expensive to do every week, change it to every 2 or 3 weeks. Sometimes, we can be too demanding and critical of ourselves. If you lose half a pound a week in weight rather than the 2 pounds you promised yourself – congratulate yourself! You have lost weight. When we change behaviour slowly and with thought it can often be more sustainable than…

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What is anxiety, and how do I cope with it?

Over the next few months I will be returning to the subjects of anxiety and panic. These are feelings that we all experience from time to time. Anxiety is a normal response to some situations we find ourselves in such as taking an exam, a job interview, public speaking, having an operation. However, persistent feelings of anxiety about everything  and nothing specific, are uncomfortable and can stop you from doing what you want to do or leading a fulfilling life. The first step in learning that anxiety may be a problem for you is checking whether you have certain feelings regularly. some examples – Worried, frightened, feeling something awful is going to happen, unsettled, panicky, detached. Imagining the worst and dwelling on it, lack of concentration. common thoughts – “I’m going to have a heart attack”, ” I’m cracking up”, ” I’ve got to get out” body changes – Butterflies in tummy, shortness of breath, heart pounding, sweating, dizzy, feeling tense. behaviour – Can’t relax, snappy, avoid lots of situations like going out/driving, eat more ( or less), smoking, drinking too much, talking very quickly, nail biting. If you recognise feeling and behaving in this way a lot of the time then you…

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Being Positive

  “Keep your thoughts positive because your thoughts become your words. Keep your words positive because your words become your behavior. Keep your behavior positive because your behavior becomes your habits. Keep your habits positive because your habits become your values. Keep your values positive because your values become your destiny.” Mahatma Gandhi  We all know that keeping your thoughts positive is not always easy. Don’t listen to the negative voice on your shoulder, replace it with a positive one, even if it’s just for today.

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